Talking about love at 19

I’ve never experienced being in love because I don’t want to lose myself. And that’s a statement. I am young, I have fire in me, I want to achieve things and the way I’m saying it might seem self centred or selfish but the truth is I’m okay with being alone, I’m at peace.

There is so much pressure for people to be in relationships, to be with someone, and some people, because of that, can’t for the life of them be alone. They are lost and they do not who they are because they have always been with someone else.

We should learn to be alone with ourselves before we get into a relationship. Being alone is okay -don’t shame people for being alone and don’t feel bad for being single. Enjoy life the way you want – whether that’s doing what excites you, learning new things, being friends with people you didn’t think you’d be friends with or get along with for that matter. And yes I know I sound like a cliche saying that – however it is what I believe in and it is what I live by.

Some of my friends are in relationships and they have so much drama and so many problems because neither one want to abdicate their freedom or their quirks, or anything that defines them, simply because the other person doesn’t like it – and no one should have to lose themselves to be with someone.

There are some things that I don’t understand about relationships, either because I haven’t been in a serious one or because it hasn’t happened to me – and honestly I wouldn’t take that sort of bs; what I’m talking about is partners cheating on each other.

I have so many questions about it. Let start with why. If you no longer are in love with someone, if you no longer cherish them the way you used to, just say it – speak your mind, be honest with them and yourself. Why is it so hard to just tell the truth?

Because at the end of the day you are not truly happy if you are not being honest. If you want to be with someone else that’s completely fine. And what tf is up with people that have double-lives or two families where one does not know about the second. That is slyyyy.

Relationships should be exciting, you should be happy to see someone, to listen to them speak, learn new things about them; and unless lies and manipulation excite them I don’t know why people cheat. Some people seem like they are in relationships simply for the sake of it, or for sex.

I’m happy, I have time to be with someone when I want to, in my own terms – when we both want to build a jigsaw together – if you don’t know what I’m talking about it’s a Daniel Sloss’ Comedy Special reference.

What are the chances that the love of your life lives 20 km away from you, extremely low. So with that in mind travel, explore, live and learn. Be free. Be on your own.